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Healthy Boundaries for Business Randi Buckley
 
 
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CLEAR AND HEALTHY BOUNDARIES ARE A GIFT TO YOUR BUSINESS AND TO YOUR CUSTOMERS

Healthy boundaries are the container for all of the work we do. 
Think about it: Everything starts and ends with boundaries.

When we cultivate, honor, and articulate them through our business, our work has deeper and longer-lasting impact. And even better... our clients get our best and we still enjoy our work, without falling into the angst of resentment, overwhelm, and feeling like our business has more control over us, than we do over it.

How do you know if your business could use a healthy boundary tune up, or any boundaries at all? 

Danielle LaPorte

"Listen to her. Randi Buckley is heart-busting brain balm."

- Danielle LaPorte

Well... you might find yourself struggling to say no to client requests, requests for colleagues, people have no trouble asking to you to "more" as they know you'll take it on; you are feeling harried in your work, overwhelmed, finding it easier to just suck it up and do things you think are out of the scope of the work, as you don't want to disappoint, you actually want to "overdeliver" and dang, you don't want to risk that client going elsewhere because you NEED this client- they pay the rent, but now friends and family are starting to get frustrated because you are always working on this business and they feel left out and now that suffers, too, and their support starts to dry up and that thing you told your client you would do?  Well you did it, but don't feel it's your best work, it was last minute, rushed, and it wore you out, but here you are tired, overwhelmed facing the next task at hand, and too spent to articulate they ways you work best, and the cycle continues, snowballs, and continues again.  And suddenly, this is not the work you thought it would be.  You are burnt out, not making as much as you thought you would and someone just called to ask if they could pick your brain, and you start to cry.  Again.

And that sucks.


 

But Here's the Deal (with my hand over my heart, I want to tell you):

 
Healthy Business Boundaries are GREAT for Business
 

AND THEY CAN BE GREAT FOR YOU, TOO!

This work is rooted in my Healthy Boundaries for Kind People frameworks,
but tailored for business situations and needs, and personalized for you.

 
 

“Healthy Boundaries for Kind People has been a quiet revelation for me. The gift of this work is helping me unravel some of the knots tied in my ability to feel safe and whole in the world and Randi’s take on boundaries is fresh and kind. She has rich wisdom and ways of looking at boundaries that are innovative and helpful. Her attention to digging deep to help people uncover what is at the root of difficulties with boundaries is gentle and exacting. I recommend this course to anyone who thinks they may need even a little help. Boundary work is shifting me hugely and I don’t have to be ‘kick arse’ or mean to do it.”

- Jane Cunningham, Artist and Storyteller

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My take on boundaries is fundamentally different than any traditional boundary advice I've ever heard.  I believe boundaries are less about keeping things "out", as they are about creating and curating the world, and business you want to be a part of.

I believe boundaries are values in action. They are what you stand for in the world, and also serve as an instruction manual for people to get you at your best. This is true for business, too. Without business boundaries, the business controls us, and not the other way around. I believe everything is connected to and starts with boundaries. 

Healthy business boundaries show you have respect for your work... 
and for your clients.  

This workshop (this course) and my work, is not "plug and play".  Sure I could give you answers and then you could go about your business (pun intended), but that is not sustainable. Nor does it ever really work, because they are not your solutions and not your words.  

We will work to find your personal and business boundaries, and put them into practice.  They are different for everyone and if they are not in the shape of you, they will not serve you.  Your boundaries, and words, must resonate with who you are and what you need to offer your best work.  We will do the deeper work of understanding the what and why of your boundaries and them put them into place with confidence and ease.

Sometimes it's not until we have our boundaries in place, a definition and outline of who we are and the space we want to take and fill in the world, that the "right" opportunities, people, or situations come along. It's almost like a puzzle. 

Once we have our the us-sized shape and are clear on what that is, then we find the other pieces that fit next to and along side us. And sometimes they just appear. 

Boundaries give the beautiful definition of who you are, and become instructions for people to get the best version of you. People can then see who if/how they fit into our lives too.

Healthy Boundaries for business and clients
 
 

 

"Working with Randi has been transformational. Throughout the process I've felt listened to, understood, as though, from a distance- who I am and what I am trying to achieve in the world has been held and kept clear by a dear friend who holds my best interests in her heart. 

I've always been one of those people who finds it hard to say no- my whole career success has been built on saying yes when other say no! And this has spilled over into my personal life too. Learning how to honor myself and others through kindly establishing and maintaining boundaries is hard work for me, but very necessary, as to not do so has led to very unhealthy lessons learned the hard way. We didn't know each other before this work; it is just her gift of insight and graceful care that has helped me to feel like this. Working with Randi has not been like regular coaching- she's not afraid to lead by example, which I am deeply grateful for, and she has used so many truly excellent real life every-day practical examples of how to live health boundaries for kind people. This is one of those rare times that just participating lightly meant I have assimilated so much and it has fundamentally changed how I behave and think. Randi has been patient and kind in helping me to be gentle with myself in this process of learning a new practice. I hear (what I imagine might be) her gentle, but firm responses in my own mind now whenever I'm stuck in situation of drawing boundaries, and it helps to remind me of the kindness that can always be used to protect myself and show love at the same time. Randi has been the lived embodiment of the graceful strength that is perfect for guiding this kind of work."

- Claire Mahon, Human Rights Attorney

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Well, they don't have to be, but I'll get back to that in a second.

Healthy Boundaries in Business Coaching for Women

Healthy boundaries can be tricky for many reasons all on their own, but in our business we have the added layers of:

  • Not wanting to risk losing clients or customers
  • Money, income, and positive cashflow
  • Wanting to over deliver and provide excellent service
  • Wanting to keep our customers happy
  • Being uncertain how to price our services
  • Fear of Missing Out
  • Honestly, this list could go on for a half an hour... 

Throw in the spectrum of good ol' basic Maslovian Needs (for example: being liked, belonging, safety, esteem, you name it) and it's easy to feel like boundaries might pose a threat to our business.  Given that this is our work is our livelihood, boundaries can feel like they might threaten some of our very basic human needs, too.

Some of you might not be sure how to go about having boundaries, so you settle for weak ones, or not having them at all. Some of you might have never seen boundaries, much less healthy boundaries, modeled or carried out in a way that feels good to you.


WE OFTEN STRUGGLE WITH A LACK OF HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN OUR WORK, BECAUSE WE DON'T THINK WE ARE WORTHY OF THEM.


You didn't go into business to feel resentment, flustered, taken advantage of, or overwhelmed.  You stepped into this to do amazing and incredible work.  And that's what we need from you.  Healthy boundaries give you the infrastructure to do just that.

 
 
 

“I’ve taken my share of online classes, Randi, and your Healthy Boundaries for Kind People is likely the one that has most changed my life. Boundaries are so needed in our world, as is kindness, and the way you show us how to embrace both is incredibly effective- and also something I wish could be taught to everyone, preferably in kindergarten. 

The format works really nicely, there are a number of ways to choose from to build your own unique practice and most of all, there is your incredibly nurturing guidance. It’s clear that you practice what you preach, and that’s perhaps the most effective teaching tool in the world.”

- Christa Gallopoulos, Artist

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Boundary advice and learning to say no coaching

With all due respect, boundary work goes way beyond that, if you are to create sustainable boundaries that truly honor you individually. Without that, you have very fragile boundaries.

This workshop (this course) and my work, is not "plug and play".  Sure I could give you answers and then you could go about your business (pun intended), but that is not sustainable. Nor does it ever really work, because they are not your solutions and not your words.  

We will work to find your personal and business boundaries, and put them into practice.  They are different for everyone and if they are not in the shape of you, they will not serve you.  Your boundaries, and words, must resonate with who you are and what you need to offer your best work.  We will do the deeper work of understanding the what and why of your boundaries and them put them into place with confidence and ease.

 

WHAT DOES A LACK OF BOUNDARIES COST YOU IN YOUR BUSINESS AND WORK?

 

Overwhelm is not a good business strategy, nor is resentment good for client relationships.  
What's your relationship to your business?  If your business were a lover, what would you tell it you needs?

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Just starting out in business?

GREAT! Let's get you started with a solid foundation of healthy boundaries. Everything you build on from here, will be built on solid ground that gives you support and structural integrity.

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Have you been in business for a while?

It's not too late! We'll raise the house, reset and put a new foundation in place that provides something solid to remodel your business boundaries upon. You'll have new stability, instantly.

 
 
 

“Randi Buckley’s Healthy Boundaries for Kind People’s Course is fantastic for anyone who is looking for more clarity, support and compassion for navigating the subtle terrain on self-individuation. Really learning how to show others how to get the best of what you have to offer while honoring ourselves. Randi’s kindness, compassion and fierce clarity makes her the perfect advocate for this intimate work, as is her ability to create a safe space for all to breakdown and breakthrough.”

- Melissa D’Antoni, Creative Catalyst + Founder/Director of Fire Tree Studios

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LET'S GET YOU SOME HEALTHY BOUNDARIES NOW

- CLASS STARTS FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 24TH.

Healthy Boundaries for Business Coaching Class

Let's take a moment and savor how great it's going to feel to have healthy business boundaries that honor you and your great work.  Ahhh... 

See what I mean?  Let's do this.

I'm going to teach you how to honor boundaries that honor you, and how to put them into practice in ways you feel good about and can be proud of.

In all, this is going to be a like a Healthy Boundaries for Business Makeover.  (I don't say "bootcamp", because I've heard stories from real bootcamp and nah... this isn't that.)  Whether you are new to business and need a solid boundary foundation to build on, or have been around a while and new some boundary repair and remodeling, I will meet you where you are at, and help you set yourself, and your clients up, for great work, through healthy boundaries.


This isn't about just "setting" boundaries.  
This is about creating an infrastructure and putting boundaries into action, with confidence, grace, and ease.


You'll learn YOUR boundaries, and how to tend and care for them, while also learning how to do this in the future.  My job is to help you learn the tools to make boundaries easy to identify, articulate, and implement with ease. 

Our foundational work will look at the root causes of our reluctance to have, or maintain boundaries, and we'll learn how to turn that around in ways that honor you and your good work.  

You'll walk away from this course knowing what you need to thrive, with written policies and procedures in place to help others honor your boundaries, and the tools and materials to move forward, adjusting to different challenges and situations.  This includes written policies to share with clients, written communication that you will have on hand for boundary challenges, structures for proactive preventative boundary care, troubleshooting future boundary hotspots, and clarity and confidence in what you boundaries are how in how you articulate them.

 
What We'll Cover
 
  • Letting generosity become non-stop giving
  • Over-committing and overextending
  • Honoring your values
  • Letting your work amplify the things that are important
  • Articulating and communicating boundaries upfront and when they are challenged
  • Being available to clients
  • The line between work and private life, and vice versa
  • Refunds, cancellations, and people wanting your work for free
  • Client demands, deadlines, deliverables, extensions, etc...
  • What do do when you know you and a potential client or collaborator are not a match
  • Needing to "save" people and being in "coach" (or fill in the blank) mode, all the time
  • Strategies to feel supported by your business and not dragged down by it
  • Identifying, naming and claiming your business boundaries
  • Proactive and preventative boundary care
  • Managing expectations
  • What to say when you're not sure how to say no, when you value a business relationship
  • The root causes of boundary violations
  • Documented policies and procedures for your business
  • Creating and maintaining boundaries in online communities
  • Naming your price and setting fees
  • Preventing overwhelm and regaining control of your work
  • Creating structures for clients to honor your boundaries with ease
  • Honoring your non-business life: family, friends, downtime, you know
  • Designing your alliance with partners and clients
  • Social Media
  • Email
 
 
How This Workshop Works
 
Healthy Boundaries for Business Classroom

1. THE CLASSROOM

We'll start with establishing a solid foundation through two, live, half-day workshops.  These will give you my core concepts, perspectives, and framework to help you ease into dramatically new and effective business boundaries. (My alumnae have found instant relief.) 

Then, each week a new module and lessons go live to help you apply the concepts to all parts of your business.  Posted in our online accessible-at-anytime classroom, you'll get activities, recordings, exercises, and action plans to discover, craft, and put your business boundaries into practice. We will work to make sure your boundaries reflect you and your values. The modules all have  theme and build upon each other to give you a foundation to build upon and grow from.  

The classroom serves as the "content" of the course.  Information, activities, exerciser, and resource, will be provided as audio and video recordings, written word, worksheets, "MadLibs", and additional supplemental materials, to cover multiple aspects of your business and work.

 

2. DISCUSSION FORUM + APPLICATION

Learning something is great, but without applying it and making it your own, it will struggle to support you.  This is where our forum comes into play!  For us to go deep, and apply this work to you and to your unique situations, we need to discuss them.  

We'll have ongoing discussions in our Facebook group, deepening the learning and putting it into action.  I will be actively involved here and you get a community who will support each other in cultivating and nurturing healthy business boundaries.  

And... you'll see first hand how you can run an online community with healthy boundaries that support everyone... including you.

Discussion forum for Healthy Boundaries
 
Coaching Calls for Healthy Boundaries

3. COACHING CALLS

On Wednesdays, at 1 PM Pacific Time, we go live!  You can join in via Zoom conference call or video, where I will offer individual coaching and we can hash out your needs, harnessing boundaries for them, and putting that into action.  Alumnae have said this element was priceless.

Coaching is a place where we can go deep and offer individual solutions, while also noticing patterns, and shifting behaviors that are not serving you or your business.  (This is my favorite part!  I'm also quite good at it.)

Coaching calls (both conference and video options) are recorded and will be available in the course to catch at a later time, or replay until to your heart's content!  I have two hours budgeted for each group coaching call.

 

4. THE WRITE STUFF

Written communication is essential in baseline boundaries and in boundary tending.  We'll work together to write your policies and to have a ready-to-go personal swipe file of emails and communication, you can use when you need to kindly remind someone of your business boundaries.  

We'll tailor these to you, as they won't be effective if they are someone else's words, honoring someone else's values.  It's invaluable professionally, and for your confidence, to know you have a way of articulating and honoring your boundaries.

 

Communication Coaching for Business
 
 
Workshop for Healthy Boundaries
  • There is a half-day workshop to kick us off, with two different options for attendance. Come to the workshop, via webinar, that works best for your schedule. And don't worry about your bladder; I've planned for bio-breaks and lunch.  Workshops will be recorded for replay at your leisure... or entertainment.
  • Workshop 1: 10 AM-2 PM PST FEB. 24TH or MARCH 3RD (You choose your preferred date)
  • Workshop 2: TBD- scheduled mid-course
  • After the workshop.. we move into application and craft your business boundaries through coaching. The coaching is done via Zoom and lets me work with you one-on-one, and the group, to trouble shoot, get you unstuck, and help you craft, word, and apply your boundaries.
  • Concurrent with each coaching call, a new course module will be released in the classroom. Our Facebook discussion is ongoing throughout the course. 
  • When the workshop has completed, the course material will remain accessible online, for three months. You may also download the course materials. 
 
 

THE I'M-NOT-GOING-TO-CALL-IT-A-BONUS

Do you know Nita Apple and Jess Larsen Jukelevics? I adore them. I bet you will, too.
Their book"Say It With Grace"serves as an exceptional guide in the articulation of business boundaries and it is available exclusively through my Healthy Boundaries work. You'll learn how to use it in the workshop and then as a guide in moving forward with your new skills. It's a serious boost!

 

“Kindness is a superpower.” This quote of Randi’s intrigued me, so I joined her new program ‘Healthy Boundaries for Kind People.’ The ensuing journey was profoundly transformative and empowering, both personally and professionally. Randi’s insightful wisdom and guidance is its own incredible gift. So also the respectful, supportive community of course participants. The journey of discovering the ‘superpower’ of kindness and healthy boundaries is indeed a rich investment in yourself- do it!”

- Dr. Marian Dolan, Artistic Director, The Choir Project

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Course Creator
 

People ask me how I learned so much, and have great ease with healthy and kind boundaries. They expect a really juicy story. The truth is, I have always been this way and good and natural with wildly healthy boundaries.  But I've also been forged. My healthy boundary work has been influenced by incredible role models (including my parents), nature, philosophy, science, and life experience. 

I've always recognized that kindness is a superpower, likely because the kindest people I have known have also been my superheroes. I learned that being clear about, and in articulating your boundaries, is an act of kindness and respect. I have also learned the reasons why this is hard for so many people, and why people would rather sacrifice themselves, then take a stand and use boundaries as the infrastructure of the life and work they desire. I have learned how to teach people to accept their own worthiness and to negotiate the risks of feeling abandon or unloved.Wait. What?! Oh man, I'm getting ahead of myself BUT I really love talking about this. I love teaching it even more. 

I have been coaching, since kids were lining up for side conversations on the playground, to talk with me, since kindergarten. It's what I do, and it's something I love. My methodology is an amalgam of my personal and professional experience, and training. There is no one school of thought that I prescribe to, nor an allegiance to something that doesn't work. With my wild intuition, equanimity, diplomacy, and a life-long interest in both ancient and new wisdom, I have created a methodology and curriculum that teaches people to recognize, cultivate, and use healthy boundaries as an infrastructure for great work.   It's rather revolutionary if I do say so myself.  

But perhaps you want facts!
Or want to know about my experience, where I am coming from or know about my fancy degrees!

Randi Buckley Coaching
  • I have 27 years experience in teaching and coaching, having started with the Concordia Language Villages. I have coached hundreds of fine folks, professionally, since I first hung out my coaching shingle.
  • I have trained with, and certifications galore, the Coaches Training Institute, the Center for Right Relationship (ORSC), The Center for Non-Violent Communication, and various other smart and fancy places.  I have multiple degrees (because I was indecisive) in Psychology, Modern Languages and Cultures, and Biological Life Sciences (AKA Pre-Med).
  • I've trained in non-fancy places. I think on my feet and am very street smart. I've have been asked to help in crisis situations for individuals and individuals around the world, where no one cared if you had a degree, rather that you could do the work and do it with excellence.
  • One day I read a book about Buddhist principles, and such, and realize I've thought this way all my life and it's how I have been living and coaching. Not to say I know all of this, but I go with what I do know and am open to learning more. I have read more books about it since then.  Still true.  (This also happened when I read about Biomimicry.)
  • The Chopra Center, Canyon Ranch, Green Mountain Coffee Roasters, Nordstrom, The Peninsula Hotels, and many other places, have hired me to develop and/or deliver training to their employees and executives. Some even keep me on retainer to help them problem solve and find resolution. (I love when the call me to say then need to "bring in the heavy weight").
  • What else... Oh, I'm constantly told by my clients that my work and my coaching are unlike any other they have experienced. That my different way of thinking has opened theirs, and can now find what's true for them and together, do the work to be at peace with that truth. The work has been called life-changing.  That's a big claim, but also very fun to hear from clients.

 
Asking Yourself
 

WHAT ARE YOUR HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR THIS JOURNEY AND OFFER?

Tuition for Healthy Boundaries for Kind People is non-refundable. Please be ready to do some good, and deep, work.

I don't do "guarantees". Here's why: I encourage, and help you, apply this work and the learning to your specific needs and customize it in ways that work for you. Everyone comes to this work with different life experience and you will need to make it your own. Telling you exactly what will happen for you, and forcing your hand in order to meet an arbitrary guarantee, isn't how I do my work, nor how I want you to do yours. What I promise is that I show up, and deliver, a course I am wildly proud of because it has helped so many women in profound and life-altering ways. And... you have to do your part in doing the deep work and applying it in ways that work for you.

You can expect humor, compassion, a request and honoring of confidentiality, non-judgment, language of the gut (not always for delicate ears), and always, always… kindness.

WHO IS THIS COURSE/JOURNEY IS NOT FOR?

This is not for folks who are better served by working with a psychotherapist right now, nor is it a substitute for medical or mental health care. If you are currently processing deep pain, memories, or trauma from boundary violations, this group is not a good match for you right now.

Now, the last thing someone who is dealing with this needs is to feel turned away. Rather, please use this as a turn toward the best path for you. You can do this program in tandem with professional mental health support with the written support of your mental health professional. I want you to be in the best hands for where you are at right now.

If you have questions, please contact me through my “Contact” form at the top of this page. And seriously, a lot of us have been there and it can and will get better. I wish you great healing.


 
If you resonate with this
 

However, if you are interested in the course because you feel manipulated, a fear of missing out, false scarcity, or that any hesitation you have is “just an excuse and means you don’t want it badly enough”, please do not purchase this, as I don’t want to be a part of, or participate in creating that experience for you, because it’s not true.

If you feel this is a path or truth, depth, transformation, and kindness, then I am already doing my job and would love to have you join us.

Your Options:

FULL

$500. Smooth. Done.

The entire course, Facebook group, coaching calls, The Write Stuff.  Kaboom.  Done!

PAYMENTS

Mix it up! $250 now, then again in a month.

You're still in! 

 

BUNDLE IT

$800 FOR BOTH.

Let's go for it! We'll do Healthy Boundaries for Business AND Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, too!

Boundary Overhaul for Business and Life

Profoundly life-changing, they say. I suspect you will, too. Go deep, personally and professionally with this work. 

PAYMENTS

Sure thing! $267 now, and again for two months. Making it work!

 

 

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Kind Words
Sas Petherick

SAS PETHERICK
Life Coach, Thought Wrangler, Author

"After a few years of contact over the inter webs, Randi and I spent a couple of days together and travelled through the magic of Big Sur. Maya Angelou said that you can tell a lot about a person by the way she handles a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights. Can I add to the list: a road trip with a tired small person and a soundtrack involving ‘five little monkey’s’ on repeat?!

As online, in person Randi is patience, kindness, wisdom and love. She has such a deep and quiet calm, combined with a quick wit suffused with the dirtiest laugh. She quickly gets to the truth and heart of matters. 

Randi is the real deal. She is as mighty as a Californian redwood and as vivid as the orange wild poppies that edge Highway 1. I just love her."


Rachel Cole

RACHEL W COLE
Coach, Author, Well-fed Woman

"Randi is grease for life's wheels. When I don't know what to do, especially when it comes to interpersonal relationships, I call her. She has a way of making the dance of being human just a little more graceful. Healthy Boundaries for Kind People is part of her natural medicine for the world, and I can't recommend her highly enough."

 


Erika Hines

ERIKA HINES, JD
Attorney, Social Change Diva

"When you meet Randi, you will crack wide open. Your gut and your heart tell you to trust her with your thoughts and your ideas. She exudes that 'sense' of caring and deep knowledge that other people say that they have. But Randi has it in deuces and spades. People are very lucky to work with her because she combines practical intelligence with social genius."


Tanya Geisler

TANYA GEISLER
Coach Extrodinaire

"Randi didn't just hold my hand. She held my heart. Really. Let me back up.

In my heart has lived a program. For a very long time, it rested there. From time to time I would whisper "are you ready to come out yet?" and it would stubbornly refuse, preferring the warmth and safety of the womb in which it contentedly ensconced. Yes, it was happy there, but in equal measures, so too was it terrified to come out. And I'll admit, I was a little afraid too. Would anyone love it beyond me? What would it look like? Would it matter to anyone? Would it make a difference? Would it survive?

I brought my heavy heart to Randi. She held it, looked inside, smiled and whispered some of her magic. Then she turned to me, whispered some more of her magic and out flowed my program. Beautiful. Powerful. Smart. Important. Valued. Cherished. Revolutionary.

So yeah, Randi held my heart. And out came the program I've been dreaming of."


Heather Thorkelson

HEATHER THORKELSON
Republic of Freedom

“When I saw the opportunity to work one-on-one with Randi to develop my digital workshop, I didn’t hesitate for a second. This woman radiates practical knowledge and deep-rooted wisdom. Needless to say, I was not disappointed! Randi provided the exact direction that I needed- regularly checking in with me about what pieces were still missing, and offering a mix of suggestions that were a great fit for the experience I am developing in this workshop. 

What I especially appreciated is that Randi brings her whole self to the process- she thinks about your work and your vision in the in-between times and the benefits of this are manifold. I learned SO much from working with her and it felt rather effortless! She’s like a course-development angel. Just hire her.”

Looking for more? Check out more the testimonials here.

 

You made it this far?  Thanks for giving this your time and consideration.  I'd love to have you join us.
And... if it's not your thing, no worries.  I appreciate your time.  

Here's to your healthy boundaries!