You all come to this journey with different hopes, in hope that things will be different. While there are similar stories and desires that lead you here, your situation and reasons are a distinct reflection of the constellation of your life. The Healthy Boundaries for Kind People journey is about making shifts within that constellation, and rearranging, if not remodeling, the people, interactions, relationships and experiences you will have moving forward.
So what might this mean for you?
Within the infinite potential of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People, where will healthy boundaries, that you can feel good about, make a difference in your life? What will be different? What is so very worth having healthy boundaries?
For many, this means:
- The heavy burden of always "doing the right thing" for everyone else, at your own peril, becomes the lightness and delight of doing what is important to you, and close to your heart, and making THAT your contribution to the world.
- Old patterns at work, with colleagues, bosses, or in own business, are eliminated and replaced by a path to get ahead, be seen, heard, and respected, paved with kindness, and now seen as one of your assets.
- The paralyzing feeling of being flustered or fumbling for words when you face confrontation or challenging conversations can be replaced with confidence, ease, and poise.
- The loaded emotional feeling of dread, and guilt ,of being with family can transform into mutual respect or even... (wait for it)... a good time. And sit down for this: even with in-laws. While traditional boundary advice often says to just "cut people out", that isn't always an option, nor what you might want to do.
- Having your spouse, partner, or significant other take a stand for you with their family. Or a boss or colleague, giving you full credit and praise for your contributions and good work.
- Break free from the spell and hold, of narcissists and bullies. Even when they are your parents.
- Feeling bulldozed over and undervalued because people just assume you will do things for them, or that you have nothing better to do than what they want you to do, transforms into being valued, respected, and appreciated by them.
- Being enraged and frustrated with a loved one's life choices, to moving to a position of supporting them without becoming a part of the drama.
DO THESE THINGS MAKE HEALTHY BOUNDARIES WORTH IT?
Yes. More than you can even now know!