"When Randi asked why I was taking the HBfKP Facilitator training it was interesting. I had to stop and think about that longer than it took to decide I wanted to do the training. That decision was easy – I just leapt... I leapt because I have done two rounds of Healthy Boundaries for Kind People. The first session was something I circled around for a while. I was attracted like a moth to the light from the word “kind” in the title. Kindness is very important to me and boundaries were perplexing and often felt like the opposite of kindness to me. I hadn’t been raised with healthy boundaries. The boundaries I often observed in others were like a shoot-out; guns blazing, dead opponents, lots of asses kicked. Kindness is very important to me and boundaries were perplexing and often felt like the opposite of kindness to me. I hadn’t been raised with healthy boundaries. The boundaries I often observed in others were like a shoot-out; guns blazing, dead opponents, lots of asses kicked. And yet I knew that having poor boundaries was cause for constant injury for me.

Working through the course with Randi, trying the different ways of seeing and living out boundaries, I began to alter this fundamental aspect of the way I turn up in the world. Stronger boundaries made me feel stronger. Stronger boundaries made me more likely to value my own contribution. Stronger boundaries made me more generous with what was precious in me and at the same time able to nourish myself. This change, which continues to evolve in me has strengthened and arighted me in a way that I would love to share with others. My experience of boundary-deficit; boundary rickets is how I like to think about it – is not unique to me. I see it in kind and caring people all around me. The thought of being able to support others to strengthen and grow feels exciting and will be a very useful tool in my work which is aimed to make the world a more healthy, alive, kind place."

- Jane Cunningham: Artist, Coach, New Zealand