People ask me how I learned so much, and have great ease with healthy and kind boundaries. They expect a really juicy story. The truth is, I have always been this way and good and natural with wildly healthy boundaries. But I've also been forged. My healthy boundary work has been influenced by incredible role models (including my parents), nature, philosophy, science, and life experience.
I've always recognized that kindness is a superpower, likely because the kindest people I have known have also been my superheroes. I learned that being clear about, and in articulating your boundaries, is an act of kindness and respect. I have also learned the reasons why this is hard for so many people, and why people would rather sacrifice themselves, then take a stand and use boundaries as the infrastructure of the life and work they desire. I have learned how to teach people to accept their own worthiness and to negotiate the risks of feeling abandon or unloved.Wait. What?! Oh man, I'm getting ahead of myself BUT I really love talking about this. I love teaching it even more.
I have been coaching, since kids were lining up for side conversations on the playground, to talk with me, since kindergarten. It's what I do, and it's something I love. My methodology is an amalgam of my personal and professional experience, and training. There is no one school of thought that I prescribe to, nor an allegiance to something that doesn't work. With my wild intuition, equanimity, diplomacy, and a life-long interest in both ancient and new wisdom, I have created a methodology and curriculum that teaches people to recognize, cultivate, and use healthy boundaries as an infrastructure for great work. It's rather revolutionary if I do say so myself.
But perhaps you want facts!
Or want to know about my experience, where I am coming from or know about my fancy degrees!
- I have 28 years experience in teaching and coaching, having started with the Concordia Language Villages. I have coached hundreds of fine folks, professionally, since I first hung out my coaching shingle.
- I have trained with, and certifications galore, the Coaches Training Institute, the Center for Right Relationship (ORSC), The Center for Non-Violent Communication, and various other smart and fancy places. I have multiple degrees (because I was indecisive) in Psychology, Modern Languages and Cultures, and Biological Life Sciences (AKA Pre-Med).
- I've trained in non-fancy places. I think on my feet and am very street smart. I've have been asked to help in crisis situations for individuals and individuals around the world, where no one cared if you had a degree, rather that you could do the work and do it with excellence.
- One day I read a book about Buddhist principles, and such, and realize I've thought this way all my life and it's how I have been living and coaching. Not to say I know all of this, but I go with what I do know and am open to learning more. I have read more books about it since then. Still true. (This also happened when I read about Biomimicry.)
- The Chopra Center, Canyon Ranch, Green Mountain Coffee Roasters, Nordstrom, The Peninsula Hotels, and many other places, have hired me to develop and/or deliver training to their employees and executives. Some even keep me on retainer to help them problem solve and find resolution. (I love when the call me to say then need to "bring in the heavy weight").
- What else... Oh, I'm constantly told by my clients that my work and my coaching are unlike any other they have experienced. That my different way of thinking has opened theirs, and can now find what's true for them and together, do the work to be at peace with that truth. The work has been called life-changing. That's a big claim, but also very fun to hear from clients.
WHAT ARE YOUR HEALTHY BOUNDARIES FOR THIS JOURNEY AND OFFER?
Tuition for Healthy Boundaries for Kind People is non-refundable. Please be ready to do some good, and deep, work.
I don't do "guarantees". Here's why: I encourage, and help you, apply this work and the learning to your specific needs and customize it in ways that work for you. Everyone comes to this work with different life experience and you will need to make it your own. Telling you exactly what will happen for you, and forcing your hand in order to meet an arbitrary guarantee, isn't how I do my work, nor how I want you to do yours. What I promise is that I show up, and deliver, a course I am wildly proud of because it has helped so many women in profound and life-altering ways. And... you have to do your part in doing the deep work and applying it in ways that work for you.
You can expect humor, compassion, a request and honoring of confidentiality, non-judgment, language of the gut (not always for delicate ears), and always, always… kindness.
WHO IS THIS COURSE/JOURNEY IS NOT FOR?
This is not for folks who are better served by working with a psychotherapist right now, nor is it a substitute for medical or mental health care. If you are currently processing deep pain, memories, or trauma from boundary violations, this group is not a good match for you right now.
Now, the last thing someone who is dealing with this needs is to feel turned away. Rather, please use this as a turn toward the best path for you. You can do this program in tandem with professional mental health support with the written support of your mental health professional. I want you to be in the best hands for where you are at right now.
If you have questions, please contact me through my “Contact” form at the top of this page. And seriously, a lot of us have been there and it can and will get better. I wish you great healing.
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You Can Pay In-Full, Choose Payments, or Go All In and get me one-on-one.
$500. Smooth. Done.
The entire course, Facebook group, coaching calls, The Write Stuff. Kaboom. Done!
Mix it up! $250 now, then again in a month.
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DELUXE: Hold My Hand
$1500. Boundary Overhaul for Business and Life
We'll do Healthy Boundaries for Business AND you'll have me as a silent partner. Well, silent in that I'll work with you behind the scenes to get your Boundary Ducks in a row and then support you in applying and maintaining them through five private coaching sessions.
Profoundly life-changing, they say. I suspect you will, too. Go deep, personally and professionally with this work.
However, if you are interested in the course because you feel manipulated, a fear of missing out, false scarcity, or that any hesitation you have is “just an excuse and means you don’t want it badly enough”, please do not purchase this, as I don’t want to be a part of, or participate in creating that experience for you, because it’s not true.
If you feel this is a path or truth, depth, transformation, and kindness, then I am already doing my job and would love to have you join us!
Life Coach, Thought Wrangler, Author
"After a few years of contact over the inter webs, Randi and I spent a couple of days together and travelled through the magic of Big Sur. Maya Angelou said that you can tell a lot about a person by the way she handles a rainy day, lost luggage and tangled Christmas tree lights. Can I add to the list: a road trip with a tired small person and a soundtrack involving ‘five little monkey’s’ on repeat?!
As online, in person Randi is patience, kindness, wisdom and love. She has such a deep and quiet calm, combined with a quick wit suffused with the dirtiest laugh. She quickly gets to the truth and heart of matters.
Randi is the real deal. She is as mighty as a Californian redwood and as vivid as the orange wild poppies that edge Highway 1. I just love her."
Human Rights Attorney, Executive Director, Global Human Rights Group,
"Working with Randi has been transformational. Throughout the process I've felt listened to, understood, as though, from a distance- who I am and what I am trying to achieve in the world has been held and kept clear by a dear friend who holds my best interests in her heart.
I've always been one of those people who finds it hard to say no- my whole career success has been built on saying yes when other say no! And this has spilled over into my personal life too. Learning how to honor myself and others through kindly establishing and maintaining boundaries is hard work for me, but very necessary, as to not do so has led to very unhealthy lessons learned the hard way. We didn't know each other before this work; it is just her gift of insight and graceful care that has helped me to feel like this. Working with Randi has not been like regular coaching- she's not afraid to lead by example, which I am deeply grateful for, and she has used so many truly excellent real life every-day practical examples of how to live health boundaries for kind people. This is one of those rare times that just participating lightly meant I have assimilated so much and it has fundamentally changed how I behave and think. Randi has been patient and kind in helping me to be gentle with myself in this process of learning a new practice. I hear (what I imagine might be) her gentle, but firm responses in my own mind now whenever I'm stuck in situation of drawing boundaries, and it helps to remind me of the kindness that can always be used to protect myself and show love at the same time. Randi has been the lived embodiment of the graceful strength that is perfect for guiding this kind of work."
ERIKA HINES, JD
Attorney, Social Change Diva
"When you meet Randi, you will crack wide open. Your gut and your heart tell you to trust her with your thoughts and your ideas. She exudes that 'sense' of caring and deep knowledge that other people say that they have. But Randi has it in deuces and spades. People are very lucky to work with her because she combines practical intelligence with social genius."
"Randi didn't just hold my hand. She held my heart. Really. Let me back up.
In my heart has lived a program. For a very long time, it rested there. From time to time I would whisper "are you ready to come out yet?" and it would stubbornly refuse, preferring the warmth and safety of the womb in which it contentedly ensconced. Yes, it was happy there, but in equal measures, so too was it terrified to come out. And I'll admit, I was a little afraid too. Would anyone love it beyond me? What would it look like? Would it matter to anyone? Would it make a difference? Would it survive?
I brought my heavy heart to Randi. She held it, looked inside, smiled and whispered some of her magic. Then she turned to me, whispered some more of her magic and out flowed my program. Beautiful. Powerful. Smart. Important. Valued. Cherished. Revolutionary.
So yeah, Randi held my heart. And out came the program I've been dreaming of."
Republic of Freedom
GOT A CHALLENGING RELATIVE, COLLEAGUE or CLIENT?
Who doesn't. Good grief. Well, now you can do something about it. Randi Buckley's freaking awesome course, Healthy Boundaries for Kind People is open for enrollment and I can't recommend it enough.
I've taken it once, and I'm taking it again. (Because new year, new relative being difficult. Amiright?) It's that valuable.
I'M A COURSE SNOB
Let me be clear: I'm really picky and I don't usually take courses. I don't have time to take courses that aren't immediately applicable, highly valuable, and will definitely make my ability to deal with life easier. But this course...this one has done it. I learned how to deal with situations and people in my life that had been plaguing me for years in a way that was compassionate to the person/situation that was driving me batshit, but empowering for me.I feel like it should be mandatory for all reasonable adults. Like...you need these skills to adult properly.
The material is not hard. It's powerful and heart-opening stuff. So if you want to save yourself a lot of existential angst over things you feel like you can't control, SIGN THE HECK UP.
You made it this far? Thanks for giving this your time and consideration. I'd love to have you join us.
And... if it's not your thing, no worries. I appreciate your time.
Here's to your healthy boundaries!