Well, they don't have to be, but I'll get back to that in a second.
Healthy boundaries can be tricky for many reasons all on their own, but in our business we have the added layers of:
- Not wanting to risk losing clients or customers
- Money, income, and positive cashflow
- Wanting to over deliver and provide excellent service
- Wanting to keep our customers happy
- Being uncertain how to price our services
- Fear of Missing Out
- Honestly, this list could go on for a half an hour...
Throw in the spectrum of good ol' basic Maslovian Needs (for example: being liked, belonging, safety, esteem, you name it) and it's easy to feel like boundaries might pose a threat to our business. Given that this is our work is our livelihood, boundaries can feel like they might threaten some of our very basic human needs, too.
Some of you might not be sure how to go about having boundaries, so you settle for weak ones, or not having them at all. Some of you might have never seen boundaries, much less healthy boundaries, modeled or carried out in a way that feels good to you.
WE OFTEN STRUGGLE WITH A LACK OF HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN OUR WORK, BECAUSE WE DON'T THINK WE ARE WORTHY OF THEM.
You didn't go into business to feel resentment, flustered, taken advantage of, or overwhelmed. You stepped into this to do amazing and incredible work. And that's what we need from you. Healthy boundaries give you the infrastructure to do just that.