Not so long ago, a very cool guy I know decided he wanted us, his colleagues, to be aware of the occasional seizures he experiences.  He asked me if this would be alright to share with the staff and I told him that it was completely up to him if he wanted to share at all and of course, up to him what he would say about it.  He graciously, matter-of-factly, yet thoughtfully spoke to an interested and caring group.  He wanted to assure us that he would be fine and to let us know what would be most helpful in that situation.  It was very helpful information and his colleagues were (and are) grateful that he shared this with them.

As we all work with kids, I asked him what he’d like for us to say to them, should they happen to witness a seizure or wonder what was happening.  I didn’t know what the scope of the seizures were, or at that time, how he responded to them.  I wanted to make sure kids were assured that he’d be fine and I wanted to respect his privacy.  Having learned he manages them quite well and that a period of sleep and rest is most helpful, I wanted to know, in his words, what felt like the right and appropriate thing to say.  He looked up a little bit, smiled and said, “tell them I just need to reboot”.

Simple, honest… wise.  Yes, this is what was necessary and warranted physiologically but really- it’s great wisdom for all of us.

Reboot.  The simple idea of taking a break, even a hard shut-down, and coming back with restored power. Smart and incredibly effective.

Why?  Perhaps you get a cold-cortisol shower and freak out when something unexpected comes up or wasn’t part of their plan.  Or you fall behind on deadlines, commitments or projects and begin to feel disappointment, shame or regular-old stress.  Or your challenge leaves you not knowing what to do or how to proceed. Really, the wisdom behind this concept relates to a spectrum of situations or issues.  But the tonic is still appropriate and good.

Rebooting is a timeless idea dressed in a new leotard and perhaps an even more effective take on what is helpful and what works.  It’s quick, allows you to pick up where you left off but refreshed and restored.  Not everything requires a do-over or starting from scratch. Like if you miss an exit on the freeway, instead of driving home and staring over, you pull off the road, get a cuppa joe and reassess.  Stretch your legs.  Even nap if that would help.  Pick up from here. We know this, but we forget it’s available to us.

Yes vacations, retreats, sabbaticals are awesome and needed. (Sign me up!)  But what about when that’s not in the cards?  What can be your go-to ‘reboot’? Something you can have in your back pocket.  A little insurance that you have a go-to plan.  A little assurance that everything will work out.

What’s your ‘reboot’?

{ 4 comments }

The generous Tara Sofia Mohr has invited me to add a blog post to The Girl Effect campaign. There are some impressive writers contributing to this very, very cool effort, or dare I say ‘effect’. I’m excited to contribute as I intuitively and viscerally understand what this means, what this is all about and why this is so important. But I’ve hesitated to write and I’ve been hesitant to post.

Part of my reluctance is my general hesitation with writing. It’s something I want and need to do more of, to reach you lovely folks, but have never had ‘writer’ as a part of my self-identity. (I’m working on it!) The other piece of hesitation is that right now I’m pretty pooped out. You see, I’m seven months pregnant and while billions of women have gone through and experienced this, MY energy is starting to wane. So I looked at this. Really? Is my energy really not up to the numerous commitments I’ve made? Nope, not in this case. It’s because I’m pregnant… with a boy.

Having a kid was not really in the cards for me. Not in a “hand I was dealt” sort of way, but rather the hand I’d chosen and have actively played.   And my goodness, if I actually did become a mom-type to someone it would for sure be to a girl! I so get girls and the whole array of possibility and unlimited definition for what girl can mean (we’re not one single experience).  I mean:

• I’ve been a camp counselor for well over 20 years… and thrive in working with girls and women, helping them see themselves more deeply, with respect and teasing out the hidden aspects in themselves and coaching them into their own leadership. (Not to the exclusion of boys- it’s just where my strengths have been.)
• I’ve been a doula, studied to become a midwife, even gave workshops on menopause at the factory I worked at when I was 19.  Women’s health is a passion and very intuitive for me.
• I embrace the feminine in me and actively bring it to everything I do.  I marry sensuality with intelligence (most days).  To me it’s as intertwined as a double-helix strand of DNA.
• I’m married to a guy who deeply respects women.  Having three older sisters, he’s very much my man  :)  but is very comfortable with and unintimidated by the feminine.  Of course he’d be a great dad to a little girl and eventual mentor to her as a young woman!
• I was born in the early ’70s when the ERA Movement was hot and felt like a no-brainer to me.  Why wouldn’t women have equal rights? A young activist was forged.
• My idols, mentors, guides, sages, BFFs are all women (with a few notable exceptions- Big Daddy, Joseph Campbell, Jung, Curt, Stellan, Roan, The Beatles… Truls).
• This list could go on, but this post really isn’t about me.  But please trust and imagine the 100′s of other ways it would be a no-brainer that if I were to become a parent-type, it would be to a girl.

So, when I found out that I was having a boy, I cried.  And cried.  And cried. Probably from still being slightly in shock that I was pregnant, the flood of pull-all-punches hormones but also because it felt like a missed opportunity to live, teach and nurture the inherent tenants of The Girl Effect; to be the change.

Then my tears started to dry and soon I did’t even have any because I realized that whole idea is rather silly.  Boys are an important and crucial part of The Girl Effect equation.  Men who value and respect women must be the “other half of the sky” if we (collectively) are to be whole.  By raising and nurturing healthy, thoughtful, emotionally whole, true-to-themselves boys, we are contributing to a better world.  In fact, I’m now just as convinced that this not only a piece of the puzzle but a cornerstone to global change.  As The Girl Effect website wisely states, “THE GIRL EFFECT IS ABOUT GIRLS.  AND BOYS.  AND MOMS AND DADS AND TOWNS AND VILLAGES AND COUNTRIES.”

Of course I’ve known this.  But now with a deeper knowing in my bones I see the possibilities.  I see what it can mean for girls.  I see what it can mean for my son (whom I eagerly anticipate and already love- he rocks!).  It’s wholeness.  For all of them.  For all of us.  And I have much to learn.  But loving him for who he is, and helping him love others for who they are, respect, equality, collaboration, diversity and truth can grow.  Opportunity.  For everyone.

When I work with teams,  business partnerships and social-change leaders who either want to work better and more effectively together or, who want to forge a new, values-based way of doing business, they often come to me requesting a strategy to get them from Point A to Point B.  In letting them know a strategy for this type of change is about as effective as sending out a single memo, I quote one of my mentors and trainers, Faith Fuller, from the Center for Right Relationship:  ”culture eats strategy for breakfast”.  We’re going to have to be the change and own it, folks.  All of us.

A plan and steps are great but if we don’t internally and collectively become, or at least lean into, the change we seek strategy will never be more than a recipe that falls short of  actual and true transformation.  The Girl Effect seeks transformation.  Add in the boys, the transgendered, the moms, dads, other caring adults… and we become the transformation.

You can count my son and I in on that.

{ 16 comments }

{ 1 comment }

Pre-Thanksgiving Vitality Cleanse Bring a Buddy Special!

So many of you have asked how The Vitality Cleanse would work during Thanksgiving and you may be wondering just how cleansing and Thanksgiving go together. Ana (certified holistic health counselor and nutritionist, my partner in crime, rather…  in your health and vitality for The Vitality Cleanse) and I think it can work beautifully and want to share with you the real spirit of Thanksgiving, which is to give thanks and spend quality time with loved ones, right?

So, we decided to make things extra enticing for you to maximize your renewal AND enjoy your holiday by offering a limited time “Bring a Buddy” gratitude special.

If you are wondering how you will make it through the holidays in a healthy way, The Vitality Cleanse literally has all the tools you need.  But… why do it alone when this time of year is about connecting and being with others?

Now through Friday, November 19^th:

Sign up with a buddy – friend, family, spouse, co-worker, pet : ) . . .

AND you each get 25% off this transformational program

That means buy one, get the second for ½ price!

Signing up together means:

• Built-in accountability
• Supporting each other in achieving fast results
• Celebrating your success together
• Never feeling like you’re “doing it all alone”
• Having someone to help keep you on the wagon
• Sharing creative ideas
• Creating new healthy traditions and community
• Making it fun!

And yes, yes people still lose weight, have their skin clear up, detoxify their relationships and revitalize their lives in the process.  Yes, we offer a guarantee.  All the information is on The Vitality Cleanse website.

And if you want to go solo with The Vitality Cleanse, that works great too.  The Vitality Cleanse

{ 0 comments }

Here’s something that has been incredibly helpful to me and dare I say, revolutionary for many of my clients.  Perhaps it’ll be helpful to you too.

Would love to hear your comments or questions.

(It’s my first video post.  Please keep that in mind!)

{ 24 comments }

I’ve been thinking about this, and want to do it right.

You see, I’ve received word from several folks that they’d like to participate in The Coaching Gym but finances are stretched and money’s tight.  I get it AND I really want the people who want to do this and are ready to call in and get support when they need it, to be able to participate. Current Coaching Gym participants are incredibly enthusiastic about the experience and getting even more out of it than they thought possible. I’d love for you to feel this way and have this experience too.

So here it goes: Make Me an Offer!

If you want to and are ready to join The Coaching Gym, contact me with your offer by Sunday, October 10^th.  Let me know what you can afford and how you’d like to be invoiced (i.e. one time or recurring payments).

I reserve the right to say “no thank you” to any offer.  This isn’t because I don’t want to work with you or don’t understand your situation.  Because I’m offering my time, expertise and this is my livelihood, I may have to draw the line at what I can accept.  (I’m very good at helping people with boundaries.    That said, I WANT TO SAY YES TO YOU!

If The Coaching Gym is for you, look into your heart and make an offer that you feel is right for you and honors the coaching and deep work you will do.  It’s powerful stuff!  If your offer resonates with you it will likely resonate with me too.  I will attempt to respond to all offers within 24 hours and if it’s a go, will get you set up right away.  If this is for you, I encourage you to act ASAP.

Please email your offer to me: randi@randibuckley.com

Need a refresher of what The Coaching Gym is all about:  http://www.randibuckley.com/coaching-gym/

{ 2 comments }

Happy Birthday, Dad!

(I’ve never been a conventional celebrator. For my parents 40th Anniversary last month, I announced an impending grandchild.  Yes, this means I’m pregnant.  That’s proving hard to top.  So I turn to you and offer you something this time.)

The Down and Dirty Sessions are back!

Just 48 hours to get down!

Let’s Get Down and Dirty

WHAT: The Down and Dirty Sessions

- Two 30 minute, laser-focused coaching sessions to get to your truth, get you unstuck and into action.  Includes a pre-session worksheet so we can jump in and hit the ground running.  It’s a 1-2 knockout punch!

- Excellent for making a tough decision, difficult conversations, relationship challenges, getting out of the stuck, re-energizing work or a relationship. I’m not afraid to get down to your truth and get our hands dirty getting you what you want or where you need to be.

- Can be used at your convenience, in the near term or later.  They don’t expire.  If you want to stock up, this is your opportunity!  In the spirit of Billy Mays,”makes a great gift!”.

- Bonus- Get a full week of The Coaching Gym too!

- $175 all-inclusive (about 63% off my regular rate)

Open to new AND returning clients.

Offer expires Friday, September 17th at 6pm PST.

All the details are here: The Down and Dirty Sessions

{ 0 comments }

Thank you to all who entered the scholarship contest for The Coaching Gym!

After careful deliberation, the guest judges and I are proud to announce Shana Einhorn as the recipient of the Full Scholarship!  We are equally as excited to announce that the winner of the partial-scholarship is Josiane!  (I will be in contact with you both in the next day or so to give you all the details and get you set-up and ready to go.)

There was no way I was going to be able to choose on my own. I want to work with ALL of you. Fortunately I had an ace team for a scholarship committee.  Special thanks to Fabeku Fatunmise (sound shaman), Curt Rice Ph.D (University Vice President/Norway), Allison Waggoner (attorney/HR Director) and Elizabeth Moorhead (ESL Teacher) for their analysis, careful consideration and willingness to help out.

{ 2 comments }

You’ve heard about The Coaching Gym.

You want to become a member of The Coaching Gym.

You want some support.  I hear you!

Tonight is the last chance to enter to win a full or partial scholarship to The Coaching Gym.

To enter:

Tell me a little why you want to participate in the Coaching Gym in the comments section (on the Coaching Gym Page)  and what you believe the difference of having me coach you will make in your professional and/or personal life.

Remember, the Coaching Gym is ‘cut to the chase’ and all about solutions.  Why is it for you?

I will review your responses with my committee (aka- some trusted cyber-friends over cyber-tea) and I will announce the winners tomorrow!  Good luck og lykke til!

{ 0 comments }