Maybe Baby? When you hear a whisper of ‘maybe’ in your heart.

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I’m currently working with a rockin’ gorup of women and making peace with their truth about motherhood, as you do.  If you’d like to hear about the next session of Maybe Baby, sign up for my newsletter (on the sidebar of the main page).

Afraid you might someday regret NOT becoming a mom?  

It may well be THE most definitive and heart-piercing question of your life.

 

“Maybe Baby” is a coaching program for women who are ambivalent about having children,

but hear the whisper of ‘maybe’ in their hearts.

With compassion and no hidden agenda, we work together to uncover your answer AND to be at peace with it.

“Do I want to have children?  Do I want to become a mama?”  I know where you’re at and what it’s like. It’s a heavy question to carry around in your heart, unanswered, all the time. And of course, there are a myriad of outside opinions and pressure.  My entire life I felt strongly and often declared my lack of desire to have kids.  I continued that declaration even after I started to feel differently.  When I got really honest I realized that the whisper of ‘maybe’ was getting louder.  There was much to consider and I went on a journey of soul-searching and self coaching to find my truth.  Two days after my 38th birthday I gave birth to my boy. Throughout my pregnancy I took those years of questions, the gestating concerns and created a coaching program for you.

“This is the most profound thing I’ve ever done for myself.  I never thought I’d end up feeling or thinking what I do.  I’m deeply relieved as I know it is my truth.” ~ Kat from the UK
I did my research too.  I put out a request on Twitter to interview women who were ambivalent about motherhood or weren’t entirely sure about their decision. With only two tweets, and within two hours, I received over 200 responses from women around the world who were eager to speak honestly and without judgement about where they were at with this very question.  I’ve found this is a huge conversation that is not being had, with shared concerns, pressure and wondering hearts, and have designed a program to get to your deepest truth and feel comfort in it.

“I’ve sat, mostly alone, with this question bouncing around my head for years. And years. Unlike some women, I never felt I had to be a mother in order to be a real woman. And that made me wonder if, perhaps, that meant motherhood wasn’t for me. I could make as many arguments “for” as “against”. It was exhausting.The exercises Randi took us through didn’t influence me in any way. What happened was something magical – she helped me access what was truly true for me. No more wondering, no more doubt. I know what I want. And the skills I learned to get to this place are perfect for any other Big Question. And the little questions too. I am so grateful to Randi and to her Maybe Baby program for bringing me to this most delicious state of peace.” ~ CG 
 
“Went from feeling anxious and lots of pressure to feeling really at peace and grounded.  The process was magical.  Randi is magical.  Magic I tell you, magic.” ~ Laurel (US)

Two things I’d love for you to give yourself permission to do (whether we work together or not):

  • Permission to be undecided.  It’s ok.
  • Permission to change your mind.  (This one is a path to freedom, by the way.)

“Maybe Baby” seeks your truth.  We’ll look at what may be in the way of that, and what it means. Some women I’ve worked with have talked about feeling like a hypocrite (because you always said ‘hell no’ about kids), wondering if you’ll be able to make it financially, how to talk to a partner about your feelings, your stereotypes of what people become when then become parents, how to be ok with wanting a child when a friend is suffering infertility or miscarriage, being scared that you might screw someone up, what you can say to well-meaning relatives who have opinions or won’t stop asking you about this, reconciling having once terminated a pregnancy but perhaps wanting a child now, being ok with no, being ok with “I don’t know”, being ok with yes.  The list goes on, but it’s your list and I want to help.  And I will.

 I will help you find your answer and be at peace with it, whatever it may be.

 “Maybe Baby is just the thing for you if you’ve been grappling with whether or not you want to have a baby. Randi creates an incredibly safe environment to deeply explore the question to find what’s true in your heart. She leaves room to look at the fears, the things that you haven’t wanted to look at, and she helps you find your own peace with that. Maybe Baby helps you consciously be at choice.” ~Jen  from the US, Maybe Baby participant

MAYBE BABY Program- Six Weeks from Ambivalence to Peace: For women who hear a whisper of ‘maybe’ in their hearts.

Begins the week of February 6th, 2012

This is a 6 week guided-coaching program to explore the deeper truth of your heart: if motherhood is calling you.

Guided, expert coaching, exploration, soul-searching, essays, interviews, and a community of other woman ready to support you.  Exploration of the issues, fears and personal desires through nonjudgmental and non-binding coaching and exercises.  Permission to change your mind, heart and be at peace with your truth, whatever it may be.

  • Weekly video from me introducing the material for the week, addressing the hot topics in the forum and creating the safe space you need to look at tender questions.
  • Specially-designed exercises (from my own journey, clients and past participants) and writing to explore all sorts of aspects and fears around the Maybe Baby question.  They are truth seeking, compassionate, and get right to the heart.  You work on your own, on your own time but stay up to speed as a group.
  • Video interviews with experts, including a sociologist regarding identity, an OB-GYN regarding biology of to have or have not,  a genetic counselor, etc… with the likes of Dr. Lissa Rankin OB/GYN, Michele Lisenbury Christensen, Danielle LaPorte, Dara McKinley,  etc…
  • Community: a safe place to discuss with other women who are asking the same questions and facing the same external and internal pressures, moderated and with active involvement by me.
  • Three group coaching calls.

And because some of you are asking:

Each week I’ll present (in a short video) and send out new information, exercises (video, audio and written), and interviews with our experts.  These can be done from the website or downloaded into an iPod, or the like.  The material can then be gone through at your own pace and in the right size bites for you.  So I present it upfront and then you have the week to work through it.  There is also an online forum for participants to share their thoughts, ideas and community in general, which I’ll be active on and coaching within.  You can sign into whenever you’d like.  There are also three group coaching calls and they’ll be recorded to listen to after the live call. 

The program is set-up for you to get guidance and do the work at your own pace, but the weekly format keeps you on task and the forum keeps you connected to me and the others.  The feedback I’ve received from the first round of women, just now finishing, is they recommend I suggest people have about 2-3 hours a week to devote to the material.

The Maybe Baby Program is $250.  

Please make sure you are ready to do the work (peace and clarity are worth it) as tuition is non-refundable.

Quick and heartfelt reads:  You’re so not alone in this question- thought it often feels like it.  My sweet friend, Marianne Elliot has a lovely piece about her own Maybe Baby question and our work together: http://marianne-elliott.com/2011/10/maybe-baby/

And for more of a taste on my take on motherhood, you can find my interview at Jack Move Magazine.  

  • http://kahlileo.blogspot.com Sera

    I so wish I could be a part of this conversation, Randi.  I have a feeling this is going to be a truly amazing and deeply transformational experience for those involved.  I’ve recently returned to writing, for it holds the keys to my sanity and my Truth, and your forthrightness has urged me to be honest about this very present issue in my heart.  Here is my very personal Truth regarding this issue, and please feel free to use any part of it in your continued research to help women find their Truth.  http://bit.ly/lfEh8f 

    Thank you so much for starting this conversation. 

  • Anonymous

    Hi Sera- Thanks for your note and the link to your lovely blog.  I dare say you are a part of the conversation, here and on your blog.  What I’m finding more and more (and more) is that there is a hunger of honesty from women for more women to share their truth, no matter what it is and for community without judgement.  Thank you for being part of that.  It sounds to me as though you are pretty clear on what that is for you.  I love that you are returning to writing- sounds like it’s the skeleton key to your soul and deep desires.  Use it.  

    Oh and, so nice to meet you, Sera!

  • Anonymous

    Hi Sera- Thanks for your note and the link to your lovely blog.  I dare say you are a part of the conversation, here and on your blog.  What I’m finding more and more (and more) is that there is a hunger of honesty from women for more women to share their truth, no matter what it is and for community without judgement.  Thank you for being part of that.  It sounds to me as though you are pretty clear on what that is for you.  I love that you are returning to writing- sounds like it’s the skeleton key to your soul and deep desires.  Use it.  Oh and, so nice to meet you, Sera!

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  • http://www.deniseduffieldthomas.com Denise Duffield-Thomas

    It sounds like a fantastic program, something I will definitely do in the next couple of years, it really spoke to me in very individual ways. Thanks so much for doing this work. x Denise DT

  • Anonymous

    Thanks so much for your comment, Denise!  I’m glad it spoke to you.  So many of the questions and thoughts we have are collective as women but our own to answer.  Please let me know if I can ever be of help.  

  • http://melaniemartinphotography.co.uk Melanie Martin

    This sounds awesome… will definitely be sharing this. I have one child and there is no chance for another, but I know so many who are thinking about this… so I will be sharing it. 

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  • http://www.randibuckley.com Randi

    Hi Melanie! Thanks for stopping on by! I appreciate your kind words. The feedback has been so affirming that this is needed. IT gives me gossebumps. Please do let your friends know what I’m up to over here. It’s super important to me to help women with this question- and I’d love to help them. Stop by again, Melanie :)

  • Annika

    I have two beautiful children, and am definitely “done”, but if I was in that place, I would sign up in a second.  It looks like a beautiful experience, with much to learn beyond just the question of Maybe Baby.   Randi is amazing, natural, and wise.  I highly, highly recommend this to anyone considering it.  You will find Randi’s coaching and expertise exceptional.  

  • Anonymous

    Hi Melanie! Thanks for stopping on by! I appreciate your kind words. The feedback has been so affirming that this is needed. IT gives me gossebumps. Please do let your friends know what I’m up to over here. It’s super important to me to help women with this question- and I’d love to help them. Stop by again, Melanie :)

  • Anonymous

    Tusen takk :)  That’s very kind of you.  Much like you are!

  • Nicola

    Wow Randi, this is amazing. I just found your program through the B-School FB group. You are doing some ground-breaking work here and opening up a conversation that many women would love to have with a compassionate and wise woman (you!) who’s been through it. Good on you for designing such a special course. xx 

  • Anonymous

    Hi Nicola!  Thanks for stopping by.  The B-School group has been exceptionally supportive- thank you for being a part of that.  I appreciate your kind and generous words.  IT goes feel like it’s an important conversation.  It really is a calling for me right now.  

  • Carolyn

    I think this is genius.  Randi – reading this page is so wonderful.  You have really hit on a perfect topic and I can’t think of anyone better to address it.  You have always impressed me with your skills.  I am so proud of you.

  • Anonymous

    Thank you, Carolyn!  It’s really close to my heart and lovely to hear that it lands for other people too.  Thank you!  And, quite a compliment from THE Business Woman of the Year ;)

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  • Felicity Fields

    As I’m nearing my 30s, the “baby question” keeps coming up again and again in conversations. Especially since my boyfriend definitely wants kids, and I’m not ready to make that kind of commitment.  Truly wish I had the resources to take this class – It would be fabulous for me!  Maybe I’ll win one of your scholarships. :)

    In any case, good luck with with from a fellow B-schooler!

  • Deanna

    The terrifying thing about having kids is that you can’t change your mind. I can always move, change career paths, sell a house or car, get out of a relationship. There’s no changing my mind once I have a baby. That’s it. No putting it on hold, taking a break or making a change. Mama is forever. What if I hate parenting? Or worse, what if I don’t like my kid? I’ve tried to have this conversation and other women are horrified that I think this way. Or they minimize that fear- “Oh once you have the baby you’ll love her unconditionally” “Everyone is afraid they won’t know what to do” blah blah blah….  Nature is going to end the debate in the next 5-ish years. So then I start wondering “what if I’m being selfish?” “what if I regret not having a baby?” I love that you want to have an honest conversation around maybe. The message seems to be that I’m selfish/commitment-phobic if I don’t desperately want a baby at this point in my life. 

  • tracie

    for me, maintaining an ambivalent attitude about having children feels like i’m the underweight person on a seesaw. i can sometimes push very hard and get my feet off the ground — i sometimes move closer to balance — but, i haven’t allowed myself to balance long enough to listen to the truth of my heart. right now, it feels safe to hide in the ambivalence – because, if i pretend i don’t care so much about having children anymore, i won’t have to face the disappointment of my former infertility issues. being ambivalent has cost me my truth. it has caused me to turn my back on myself. reclaiming peace with my truth will allow me to trust my whispering soul and will allow me to support all parts of my self.

  • Katie

    Wow – I happened upon this quite randomly and it seems so destined to be.  I’m coming up on my 37th birthday and I have given myself a “deadline” of my birthday to make a decision about whether or not to have a baby.  This was a year ago, the deadline making, and I feel no closer to that answer then I did at the moment I decided to make this deal with myself.  My birthday is December 10th – close to the end of this course.

    The cost of my ambivalence?  I had a lot of healing to do before this question even could become something I could ask myself.  That makes me so sad because if I had been in better situations when I was younger I may have felt very differently about having children.  I’m not sure if just never feeling safe led me to this space, but it has been more of a recent acknowledgment to myself that maybe the answer I thought I had is not really relevant anymore – maybe I’ve changed my answer.  My ambivalence has cost me peace and a certain type of faith in myself.  I feel lost because of it.

    Peace with my truth would be just to know what it is I want with all the fear and expectations that weigh so heavily on me wiped away.  Peace would be to ask myself, what do you want and have a real answer that comes from my heart.

  • Anonymous

    Thank you Deanna, Felicity, Katie and Tracie for your entries!

    There was no way I could chose a recipient by myself- you’ll all deserving, so I enlisted some great guest judges (post about that forthcoming).  But as I have limited internet right now, I’ll announce the full scholarship to goes to Katie.  Congratulations!  

    And I’m awarding partial scholarships (50% tuition) to all of you! Please contact me via email and we’ll get you all set up!  randi at randibuckley dot com

    Congratulations and thank you to Jen Louden, Rachel Cole, Sarah Blackthorne and Christine Halmick for your wise insight and guidance.  

  • Erinn

    Hi Deanna,

    I just want to say that I think you are being the OPPOSITE of selfish by really looking at your truth and seeing if you are ready for/want a baby. To me, it sounds like you are being a lot less selfish that you think, bc the “selfish” thing would be to say, “well, oh well, I don’t know what I want but I don’t want to regret it so I’ll have a kid.” It seems to me that you are looking out for the possible child already more than you even realize. :) So see if you can forgive yourself. You will know if it’s right for you or not. And in the meantime, I think it is incredibly brave that you are being so open and honest with your feelings. If you decide to become a mom, you’ll make a great one. :)

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  • Crystal

    I am so glad I found this!  It was from a link your sister posted, Randi.  She and I went to high school together, and when she posted the link on facebook, I felt like she was posted it specifically for me.  I am both excited and nervous to start this journey with your help, but I know I need to do this, and I need it now.  I can’t keep putting off making a decision about parenting by saying “oh, I have plenty of time to decide.” 

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  • Jessica

    Your site doesn’t seem to be accepting any of my credit cards…suggestions?  (Cards are working everywhere else…)

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=546541968 Randi Buckley

    Hi Jessica-  Oh no!  Thank you for letting me know.  Let me investigate… It has been working but if it’s not working for you, that’s problem.  

  • Barbara

    I red about this program in another coach’s newsletter and I thought this is for me! I always thought I wanted to have children and that I would have them until I turned 30. Now I’m 40 and not sure anymore whether I want them or not. I’m in a relationship where my boyfriend doesn’t want children yet (he’s also 40). But I feel I have to know what I really want. I would really like to know and feel my inner truth and have peace with it. This program sounds just great.

  • http://twitter.com/randibuckley Randi Buckley

    Hi Barbara,  I’m so glad you are here.  I feel knowing your heart, even it that feels like it might not be 100% congruent with your current circumstances and life, is the key to peace.  Knowing and being honest with your truth trandscends circumstances and can make the current constellation of your life line up all the more with your heart- and amazingly often with the same folks involved.  I would love to have you in the program and this is exactly what we look at and I know the weight of that on your heart, mind and perhaps the unspoken weight of it on your relationship.  Please let me know if you have any questions, Barbara.  :)

  • Ilaria

    I’m so surprised to find the perfect program form me! I’ve been struggling with all these subjects for the last 5 years at least. I can’t be a part of the next group, but I do hope the Universe will make me afford it next months.

  • http://twitter.com/randibuckley Randi Buckley

    Thanks Ilaria!  I certainly hope to see you in the future.  5 years is a lot of struggle.  I wish you peace and hope to work with you soon.

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