It’s been awhile. Yes indeed.  Unless you were registered for the “Business as Lover Teleclass”, you haven’t heard from me.   What I’m happy to report is that I’m largely recovered from a substantial illness that knocked me out for most of the fall and winter.  This spring has afforded me more energy and now I’m nearly back to my regular self.  Yay!  So, how are you?

I’ll write more about this (and its gift) in the future but want to let you know about an offer I put together for you NOW: The Down and Dirty Sessions. Please listen to your heart to see if this feel right for you.

WHAT:  The Down and Dirty Sessions

- Two 30 minute, laser-focused coaching sessions to get to your truth, get you unstuck and into action.  It’s a 1-2 knockout punch!

- Excellent for making a tough decision, difficult conversations, relationship challenges, getting out of the stuck, re-energizing work or a relationship.  I’m not afraid to get down to your truth and get our hands dirty getting you what you want or where you need to be.

- $100 for both sessions if booked by May 30th; $125 for both sessions after May 30th (75% off my regular rate)

WHO: Open to new AND returning clients.

WHEN: The Down and Dirty Sessions are a limited-time offer.  Offer is good through June 10th (You can use your sessions now or save them for later).

I’m not into traditional marketing efforts where scarcity ploys are thrown about.  I have a limited number of Down and Dirty Sessions (20) because I have a small window of time and will devote everything to these sessions.

WHY: I’m kissing à la carte 1:1 coaching goodbye! This is the last opportunity to work with me in this format and I want to give you a special offer to thank you for sticking by me during my recovery.

HOW: You can purchase your sessions here. After your purchase you’ll receive a link to self-schedule your sessions online (it’s confidential).  You’ll receive a short questionnaire from me to complete prior to your first session so we can maximize our efforts.  All sessions are via phone or Skype

” Matter at each level of complexity appears to consist of two interdependent, non-identical elements in dynamic interaction and in integral relation to each other.  It appears that an interacting, dynamic, asymmetrical binary relationship is the fundamental module of order in the cosmos.  I have the impression that the interactions in these systems underlie all phenomenon in nature.  The most fundamental phenomena in the universe is relationship. It then becomes possible to recognize the underlying unity in all the diversity of the phenomena of life.”

~Jonas Salk

I had such a lovely response to my drawing that I decided to make it a monthly feature!

Each month all subscribers to my newsletter (new and current) will be entered into a drawing.

The Prize: Two Coaching Sessions  (30-45 minutes each) A laser, leadership or difficult conversation coaching session- your call!  One call to get clear and take action and then a follow up call to process and/or move you forward.

Just fill out the newsletter registration form to the right and you’re registered for the newsletter (full of helpful tools and articles), but also the drawing.  I’ll announce the winners after the first of the month.  Good luck!

So, make sure your registered!  I’ll announce the winners (with their permission) on Twitter and in the newsletter.

How’s this for setting the tone for your Thanksgiving and holiday travels:  Call the people you’ll be visiting or hosting and ask them what they want. I’m not talking about presents (though in the end it may feel to someone like you’ve given them one) but hopes and dreams.  While I recommend this for any group of gatherers it’s especially profound and powerful when it’s a new (e.g. meeting your partners’ extended family), a strained relationship or even a trip you dread.

Ask and really listen.  Deeply.  What is it that they long for? This question is a catalyst.  It will establish or affirm your connection, let them know they matter and give you a sense of their hopes and expectations.  It’s those unspoken but deeply held expectations that can trip us up, whether they are other people’s expectations or our own.   Notice where their dreams overlap, intersect and diverge from your own.

Let’s say you ask and get answers completely out of alignment with your hopes and dreams for the visit.  Excellent!  Knowing their desires helps you plan which areas of their dream you’d like to honor and also see where it branches off from yours.  These branches are key to harmony for the holidays. Make a plan to use the spaces in between your shared dreams to fulfill your hopes and needs, whether it’s down time to recharge (hello introverts!), connecting with other people who are part of your holiday dream or catching some couple time with your partner.

Let your host/guest know about your plan and see how it sounds to them.  I suggest pointing out how you are looking forward to the shared hopes and dreams (i.e. getting to know them better, learning how to knit, etc…).  Validate the parts of their dream that are not shared, even if you have no interest. Let them know you get how important those parts are to them and that you encourage the experience for them.  If it’s a piece you’d like to sit out, let them know you would like to use that time to honor some of the things that are important to you.  Be flexible if you can or if it feels right.  Be firm where you need to be.  Be empathetic all around.

This either works out simply lovely or it can become the start of a conversation sharing what’s important to you.  But most importantly, you’re having the conversation; in advance; reducing unwelcome surprises and holiday disappointments.  Make the call, the connection and honor the dreams.

Want more? My Home for the Holidays Survival Program starts November 23rd.  You’ll be relieved.

Presenting the “Home for the Holidays Survival Program”

At the request of many I’ve put together the “Home for the Holidays Survival Program”.  For some us us the holidays are lovely yet can still be sprinkled with stress, dread and frustration.  After polling and interviewing clients and friends I’ve identified the following as big-time potential stressors and designed classes to help deal and navigate the waters:

1) In-Laws and Others

2) Disapporval and Disagreements

3) Healthy Holiday Boundaries

4) Tough or Embarrassing Year

There is also a Membership Support Forum, which will run through January 3rd, 2010, to answer questions, offer online coaching, support and accountability.

Let me help you get through the holiday season with less stress and more enjoyment.  Even if your stressors aren’t extreme (or are very) I’ll give you the tools to turn your triggers around and enjoy the season.  These four classes will support you to become more skilled at dealing with perennial holiday triggers.  Get through the holidays without pulling out your hair. Raise the stakes for even more joy this season and overcome or eliminate these issues all together.

Full program details and registration here: www.greatteleclass.com

Acceptance isn’t the same as ‘Just Deal With It’.

“The  first  step  toward  change  is  awareness.   The second step is
acceptance.”
~ Nathaniel Branden

“Only by acceptance of the past can you alter it.”
~ T.S. Eliot

I really like these two quotes.  There are many (many) quotes and thoughts
around acceptance; what it affords you, what it means, etc…  Within the
moment  that acceptance is a genuine possibility we are staring at the
threshold of change, forgiveness, moving forward or becoming unstuck.  In
that moment a choice is made and in choosing acceptance we feel the full
personal responsibility of swallowing our reality whole.  It almost feels
like time slows down as we inhabit what is.  In the vast fullness of the
acceptance, a shift is made.  It’s subtle but palpable and huge.  Like a
slight  adjustment in the direction of a sail we instantly head out on
different course and in time arrive at a completely different destination.
Usually this is the place of freedom.  I suspect we’d all like a little more
of that.

I used to think when people talked about acceptance that on some level it
meant that you had to accept the way something was and you just had to “deal with  it”.   That’s  not  what  I am proposing.  In accepting, you are
acknowledging what is or what has been.  It doesn’t mean that you love it
but you can honestly name what is or has been true.  Own it without the
burden  of  judgment.   Make it yours.  In the moment of true and full
acceptance you create an energetic road for a new path.  It’s the path that
draws you in and likely one that is wanting to happen.  It
can’t be forced.

Join the Relationship Cleanse!  Starts Tuesday, October 20th!

The quality of your relationships is the quality of your life.

This guided cleanse provides you with all the tools and support you need to do a gentle yet effective cleanse that will leave you refreshed, energized and transformed. Whether you are a seasoned cleanser or a complete beginner, you can go at your own pace and go as “deeply” as you need or want to.

A nutritional cleanse can be incredibly helpful to feeling and even looking better. But for sustainable and deep change there is something else that has to happen. You have to look at the rest of your life and your relationships- to your partner, food, self, etc… They are either a source of nourishment or toxicity.

In the Relationship Cleanse we, a holistic health counselor and a relationship coach, will show you the toxic mistakes that may be keeping you stuck, tired, sick or not feeling as great as you know you can. We’ll help you clear out what’s not working and get to a place where you feel nourished, energetic and more alive.

The entire course, with all the
accoutrements: $145

Please visit the website for all of the details, including recordings so you can listen at your leisure, the Ebook and more!

Difficult Conversations with More Heart and Less Fear

Illustration by Ben Wilson of New Zealand (based on our conversation)

Wednesday, October 7th 5PM PST

Sign up for the live class and/or to receive the recording.

It’s time for another complementary teleclass and I’m very excited to roll out the refreshed Difficult Conversations class.

I’ll show you how to have sensitive conversations with greater ease  You’ll learn how to make a Difficult Conversation an opportunity to enrich relationships and for personal transformation.

We’ll cover lots of “hows”.  Things like:

• How to initiate the conversation
• How to get clear and speak your truth
• How to eliminate the 4 Toxins of conversations
• How to move beyond the fear of hurting others

Also: Learn the 5 things to hold in mind to have a deeply satisfying and transformational conversation.

FREE “Difficult Conversations” Teleclass

Wednesday, October 7th 5PM Pacific

October 4th, 11th and 18th in Monterey, CA

The Relationship Cleanse: Refresh, Energize, Transform

With Randi Buckley and Ana Poirier

• A seasonal nutritional cleanse with a focus on relationship coaching and alignment.
• Refresh, re-energize and revitalize mind, body and relationship.
• Clean out what’s not working, get more energy and revitalize yourself and your relationship.
• The benefits are exponential!

www.relationshipcleanse.com

The Relationship Cleanse provides a unique opportunity for deep personal and partnership transformation through the symbiotic work of the nutritional, health and relationship coaching. Clarity emerges personally and in the partnership, allowing what’s strong to become stronger, what’s not working to be cleansed and the individuals as well as the relationship to be refreshed.